Reflecting on Experiences From The Time Machine

Please note that today’s post is written from the future.  I have managed to come back in time and post what I have written in the future.  It was difficult, mostly because I couldn’t remember the password from this old site.

The year is 2027 and I am 60 years old.  There is no need for me to share the day to day differences in technology, retail stores, politics, etc.  Those stories have all been written already.  This is my story, not the story of life in the U.S.  And while it is my story, it is also the story of lots of people.  The story of dreamers, of Mothers, the story of small business people all over, the story of midlife, the story of learning and the story of starting something with nothing more than an idea.

It is the story of a bad year turning into wonderful memories.  It is the story of moving forward instead of giving up.  When we aren’t looking, our struggles become our joys.

I very clearly recall the spring and summer of 2017.  I was 50 years old and ready to give up on an idea I had been working on for close to a decade.  Thank goodness I didn’t give up, or I wouldn’t have learned so many skills I needed to enhance my life.  And this business wouldn’t be benefitting so many families.  But, in 2017, I just wasn’t sure.  I didn’t believe I had the skills I needed, and I didn’t think I even had the capability to cultivate those skills.  For the majority of my adult life, I had been working with children.  I knew how to motivate them, to help them learn, about the important life lessons they needed, but I was going against the mainstream in my community.  I knew what I was doing, but had no credibility.  I didn’t know how to work with adults. I didn’t know how to build a team, I had reached the limit of my knowledge regarding coding and building any tech related application, I had absolutely zero idea about how to find outside funding or mentors.  I was exhausted, physically and mentally out of shape, and ready to give up.  But then something changed.  Look where we are now!

Kiki: You said everything I’ve ever felt about being a mom but couldn’t say.
Carla: There’s so many rules now.
Amy: Don’t punish your kids!
Kiki: Don’t say no to your kids!
Amy: We all work too damn hard trying to make our kids’ lives amazing and magical. Their lives already are amazing and magical. Let’s be bad moms!
Carla: Ugh, I’m in!
Amy, Carla and Kiki: To bad moms!

There is an old movie called Bad Moms.  Have you seen it?  It is supposed to be a comedy.  I remember watching it and thinking, “This isn’t funny.  This is truly how lots of moms feel about their lives.  Isolated, unable to keep up, turning to substances just to feel a little bit better.”  The sad thing is that back in 2017 there wasn’t a great option to find help and support.  That was just 10 years ago.  Now, not only is the help part readily available, all of us are contributing to data and information which is studied and helps us.  Now, we are able to find our friends, even without planning ahead, in real life.  Now, we are able to use technology to help us physically connect and support one another and our families.  What was a tiny business about to disappear is now thriving.  The team is incredible, positive, forward thinking, and community oriented!

In 2017, because of my management, my personal income had dropped by more that 60% over the past couple of years.  I had fewer reliable contacts than in times past, I had less support than I did just the year prior, and virtually none of the kind of advisors I needed at this point in my journey.  All of those stumbles were because of me tripping over my own feet. I couldn’t manage to get my team built.

Then I realized the problem.

It wasn’t “my” team.  There is no “my” in team.  Ok, well, the saying is that there is no “I” in team, but that isn’t the point.  The point is a team is a group of people with individual skills working toward a common goal.  The team started coming together.  I’m not even sure exactly how it happened.

Our team has grown from the initial software developer, sales and marketing person, financial advisor, family counselor, team builder, graphic designer and several dreamers.

Now, here in the future, I am only involved as part of the periphery, but I am so proud to be part of this team.  The initial team are people I love and am grateful to have had the opportunity to witness their own growth, both personally and professionally.  For the most part, they are millennials.  Back in 2017, there was a lot of negativity being tossed around when discussing millennials.  I guess now that we are seeing how positively they are impacting the world, it is easier to dismiss those attitudes from ‘back in the day’ (which, I am told, was a Wednesday).  I have seen team building, incredible innovation, patience, working for the goal before the gain, balanced lives, nuanced communication, and a desire to consistently make this world a better place to live.

Our team has grown from the initial software developer, sales and marketing person, financial advisor, family counselor, team builder, graphic designer and several dreamers.  Now we have added explorers, trainers, university researchers, data analysts, and compassionate support staff, all of whom work together in a flexible workplace remembering the whole purpose of work…to support families, including our own.

I was exhausted, physically and mentally out of shape, and ready to give up.  But then something changed.  

Do you want to know what happened in the summer of 2017?

 

One workout, one new connection, one old connection, and a day playing in the rain.