Here is where my thoughts zoomed far away from a relevant topic for this blog. Too bad.
I have been trying and trying to find teammates to work with on this project, but haven’t been successful yet. I am not a good team member or good at building teams. I was listening to my son talk about something he is getting ready to do, and was completely in awe of how amazing he is at building relationships with people. No matter where he has lived in his adult life, he makes these great group of friends. Good friends, the kind that depend on him and the kind that he can depend on. I was wondering aloud how he does that, and the discussion was informative in more ways than I expected.
Over and over, I am reminded that the process of parenting has taught me so much more than I ever could have hoped to teach my children. Often, when I am engaging in parent coaching or parenting classes, the adults I am speaking with are looking for ways to manage the behavior of their children. Hey, I get it, for our sanity it sure does matter to be able to find ways to get our children to cooperate. The whole “it is like herding cats” problem.
Here is a secret – parenting might just come down to how you feel about the human being you are becoming. When you look in the mirror as you wash your face at night (right? You clearly have time to do a whole skin care regimen every night), are you proud of the human being you are? I bet there are a lot of mommies and daddies who don’t feel too proud of the way they handled everything, everyday. Guess what? If you messed up, and you feel badly about it, you learned something! You gained an opportunity to do something different tomorrow.
Your kids may have broken things, hit people, refused to share, had a total melt down in a store, threw their homework across the table, spit their food out…maybe just a little unkind action. How did you respond? THAT is the part that matters. They will grow up to be like you.
Or will they?